Tag: love
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A critique of “The Thrill of it All”
I recently watched an old Doris Day movie about a doctor whose wife becomes a TV advertising star. And I couldn’t help feeling that the whole problem was that the characters never had an open discussion and never asked the right questions. And that’s fine, if people did that at the beginning of the story…
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Surviving the past and present through sex
One not well-understood way that men and women differ from one another is in their strategies for filling and defining roles. It is often noted that women occupy the great stable middle of social and personal distributions, while men occupy a larger portion of the extremes, both at the top and at the bottom. So…
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What women want
What women want, or at least what my wife wants, is to feel special and valuable and precious. To be a princess. For her, it’s a guilty pleasure, but it’s also obviously a deep motivation. To be seen or discovered to be or appreciated as or treated as if or to simply be a princess.…
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Roommates vs Spouses
What is the difference between having a husband or wife and having a roommate? The two overlap, and it’s easy for one to slowly become another, especially as the passions of youth cool and life becomes more stable and predictable, as our daily lives become more about the regular effort required to maintain life than…
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Birth of the goddess
Spicy meatball warning. Offensive, personal, not at all polite or correct. Prepare for some shocking imagery. I believe it to be necessary to really adrress this subject honestly and unblinkingly. The unvarnished reality of it. I know that in some ways I’m violating my own points I made in my entry about Cuties. There are…
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Gender and cooperation
Although tyranny was often an outcome, as it is of any structured political or economic system, specialization into certain roles was also, in the main, a byproduct of local historical conditions and assumptions (both of which had a grounding in empirical personal and cultural experience, experimentation, consequences, and adaptation). Local systems didn’t just arise from…
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Modern expressions of innate sexual instincts
What percent of current political conditions results from the scaled up and transposed familiar instincts in men and women? Those instincts, at the most basic level of society, are fundamental. They’re hard coded into humanity. All subsequent levels of complexity build upon them and extrapolate them. And traditionally society was built from the bottom up,…
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Marriage as a test for parenthood
Is it possible that being married is, in some ways, the best test of and training ground for whether you’re capable of being a good parent? Especially for men, but likely for everyone? Children demand so much and offer so little back. If you can’t accept a different person’s interests as your own and flesh…
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What the sexes owe one another
Marriage is a strange but curiosly persistent and widespread arrangement. How humanity arrived at it, whether by nature or by divine appointment, if there is any sense in making such a distinction from the perspective of the time, isnt really my concern here, and isn’t a question that can be empirically answered. It certainly seems…
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Would men care about women without sex?
One thing I sometimes wonder is, what percentage of the love, attention, and respect that men show women is due to their sexual attraction to them? I’m willing to bet that it’s a lot. Looking at how men act toward men, there’s a lot of competition. There’s not a huge amount of personal interest. Men…
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